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Jenn: The Ex FactorJenn Stergerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01642711412531688640noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25489499.post-54344098705666585692009-01-15T10:38:00.000-05:002009-01-15T10:38:00.000-05:00The ex factor, loved the title.What can I say?!Bee...The ex factor, loved the title.<BR/>What can I say?!<BR/>Been there and done that.<BR/>I can honestly say that all of my previous relationships have at least ended in friendship, love and passion where gone but in the majority of the cases friendship remained, in some cases till this very day.<BR/>Is always a good thing when you can go to an ex whatever and have a good time, remembering the old days, talk honestly with one another.<BR/>I even find it surprising to see how honest we can be with each other after parting ways, we can be more open and honest with each other than we ever been in an entire relationship, it’s sad but it’s true in most cases.<BR/>Now Mark almost resembles me, I to have my wingman situations, and surprisingly enough it happens more and more has I grow older, with me there’s and entire gallery of situations from ex-girlfriends, friends that I haven’t seen in years to people that I just met.<BR/>They say that I’m a natural good listener and adviser, all of this people find in me a way to let go of the stress and find some happiness in what sometimes are crappie life moments, although unlike Mark I never share my problems or secrets with anyone, in a way I’m like a priest what you say to me stays with me and maybe is knowing that what gives people the freedom to share their lives with me, like Mark I can also be a good drinking partner although I have my self-imposed limits, believe me you wouldn’t like me when I get drunk (almost sounded like a scene in a Hulk movie ) but really I’m the worst kind of person to be around with when I’m drunk.<BR/>Not only will I stop paying attention to what a person is saying but sometimes I change the theme of the conversation to another one that simply doesn’t have anything to do with what that person was saying to me, just to give a few examples one time I was listening to a ex-girlfriend, she was like “You know, I feel like I’ve been used and then thrown out like trash, he said I was is entire world and then I caught him in the bed with another girl” and I’m like “Did you ever heard of the great discrepancy? Did you know that over a million years of geological history has disappeared and no expert in the world can find an explanation?” in another case I found a old buddy of mine and we started to talk and he was like “Man I’m tired of this #$cking country, my boss is an idiot, just because he married a rich bitch he thinks he can walk over people like they’re nothing, and this #$cking taxes, every year they go up like crazy, our politicians spend money on stupid projects that don’t do the country any good is like they think that #$it is going to rut an so they start spending money like is christimas all year long. What do you think man?” and I’m like “That girl over there sure is hot, damn look at that body, wait here a moment I’m going to talk to her” is like #$%tting on another person head.<BR/>There’s a problem when I get drunk, people around me for some reason don’t realize that I’m drunk, in one occasion I was the designated driver, and Jenn I have to tell you I stole allot of years from the people that where in the car with me (some years ago I worked at a private driving school where I had to teach people how to control the car in every situation so basically a car to me is like just another part of my body) I started accelerating that baby like there was no tomorrow, in the curves I didn’t even used the foot brake only the hand brake, damn it look like a scene from Fast and the Furious, the people in the car, guys and girls screaming their lungs out, even one of the girls that assumed herself as a true gothic she started praying to Jesus and Mary, the guy at my side started crying like a baby and kept saying he was going to die, but I was on a role nothing was making me even slow down a bit, until we arrived at our destination, everybody jumped from the car and started screaming at me, I honestly don’t remember half the things they said.<BR/>Ever since then I created a limit to how much I drink, because honestly I could have killed all of us and being drunk just isn’t for me.<BR/>And there where also those situations where I could be talking to an ex-girlfriend and we started drinking to forget the problems and usually the “…this night is going down in infamy” to me was waking up in the morning with my ex next to me, and every time that happened we had to have the Talk.<BR/>Damn the Talk was always a painful task to go through; we had to put the facts strait, don’t get me wrong there was never a moment where we would wakeup not knowing what we had done, but the fact that we had done it always brought issues to a chapter long closed.<BR/>But returning to you Jenn, you’re right, there is allot of jealousy in relationships, most people don’t have in their heads the concept that the person they are with had a life before they had met, and it is that past that hunts and destroys most relationships, I cant even begin to tell you how many times I’ve seen boyfriends or girlfriends telling their partner that if he or she continued to talk to their ex’s that the relationship was over.<BR/>I personally love to keep in touch with ex-girlfriends to simply talk with ought any strings attached, is like that old saying “Learn from other people mistakes because you wont live long enough to make them all”, and so talking to ex’s, friends that I haven’t seen in a long time is always a good and stimulating event.<BR/>Is like you say, many times the true revelations in life, the ones that matter seem to come from simply talking to people that are and where important in our lives.<BR/>Thanks for sharing these events of your life with me Jenn I really appreciate it, it’s always good to know that we are not the only ones that think like this, that we are just as sane or even more than any other person.<BR/>I wish all the best to you.Rui Miguel Silvahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03074093100172760770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25489499.post-84020216209783009902008-06-15T19:00:00.000-05:002008-06-15T19:00:00.000-05:00Good post!I could never be friends with any of my ...Good post!<BR/><BR/>I could never be friends with any of my exes for a very simple reason: I can't take anyone seriously anymore after I've seen them naked.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com